Mum Theory

We're all shitty mum's.
Did that get your attention? Rile you up? Make you want to throat punch me a little? Hear me out... we're all shitty mum's... sometimes. And, we think we're shittier than we really are. Really.
So, Shitty Mum's, let me tell you something...

You don't have to have Pinterest worthy crafts to do and display every day. You don't have to have lunch in fun shapes or in cute little boxed compartments every day. You don't even have to make lunch or supper or even breakfast every single day. It's ok that you got frustrated and raised your voice. It doesn't matter if you stayed in your pajamas all day. It's ok. It's ok if you turned on the cartoons 10 minutes after breakfast and turned them off 10 minutes before you crawled into bed. It's ok that you didn't feel like getting down on the floor and playing dinosaurs or barbies or legos. It's ok that you roll your eyes at having to read Goodnight Moon for the 87th time today. It's ok that you would rather space out on facebook for the next 20 minutes, instead of do the dishes or wash the floor or be constantly engaged with your child. It's ok. It's ok that you love and look forward to doing ANYTHING by yourself; be that going to the bathroom without an audience, to grocery shopping, to having a girls night out where you drink your face off and dance until your head spins. You don't have to always be motivating or encouraging or upbeat. It's ok.
Are you striving to be the perfect lil wifey? The perfect mum? Well, Shitty Mum's... perfect does not exist. Really.
Some days you are going to yell. You're going to get frustrated and overwhelmed and lazy. You are going to do the easy thing instead of the best thing. You are going to want to run away or take a break or give yourself a time-out. Some days you aren't going to have it in you to praise every single little good thing and you might fly off the handle at a little inconvenience. Some days, some hours, some minutes you're going to want to drink.
But, Shitty Mum's, all this is what really makes you pretty awesome mum's too. Because we can't be 100%, 100% of the time. The more I talk to other Shitty Mum's, I realize that I'm maybe not as shitty as I thought... that maybe I'm a little closer to normal. Maybe. We all have shitty days. We all have days or moments where we aren't the best mum we could be. But we make up for that. We strive for that. More days, than not, we try to be good mum's. And we get down on the floor to play, or make absurdly amazing pinterest crafts, or have crazy lunches, or dress up and have dance parties. We do read that same story, word for word, a bazillion time, because we know it's loved. We make healthy meals even when all we want is a cheeseburger washed down with a chocolate bar (or two..).
Shitty Mum's, I promise you... you will only truly be a Shitty Mum when you stop caring how shitty you are. Until you are shitty most of the time... until then, you are an AWESOME mum. Yes, really. So it's ok to take a day to be Shitty Mum. Turn on those cartoons, eat icecream out of the tub and lock yourself in the bathroom as often as needed. Tomorrow you'll be AWESOME again... I know it.